A is for...


Well, it’s for a lot of things, actually.  There were three reasons I ventured into an exploration of death and much to my surprise and AMAZEMENT, they all start with the letter A.

It was an ACCIDENT.

I was in my first semester of graduate school at Goucher College trying to figure out my thesis topic.  I was sitting at home waiting for my mentor, Diana Hume George, to call my house.  As the tock clicked past our meeting time, I became anxious and called her number instead. (I’m not known for my patience.)

A funeral home answered.  I hung up.  I checked the number. I called again.  The same funeral home answered.  And the rest is history.


Maybe it’s because I suffered through most of my life with ridiculous social anxiety that death and its natural aftermath, grief, seemed particularly scary. In the past, if your mother died, I would run from you.  Not because I didn’t like or care for you, but because I didn’t know what to say or how to act and it made me feel incredibly uncomfortable.  I learned that I’m not alone.  Death is scary, but next to birth, it’s the most natural part of life.


At the beginning of this project, I was approaching 40, and I’d only lost a grandmother when I was a kid.  I feared that the latter part of my life was going to be filled with death and sadness.  Yes, both wait for me, but now I feel much better for facing my fear instead of pretending that the proverbial pink elephant doesn’t exist.

And it all lead to a BLOG and a BOOK, but more about that later…

Would You Shave Your Head For Cancer?


I'm guessing that not many people would, but there are a few brave folks out there who are doing just that to help raise money for cancer research.  One of those peeps is my friend Cate, who also happens to be an EMT/Firefighter and a mom of two girls.  

It's all to benefit St. Baldrick's.  She's going bald tonight and she only has $277 out of a goal of $1000.  Please help her out.  I bet you spent at least $5 on the Megamillion lotto last night or at Starbuck's this morning.  Come on, be a champ.

To help her reach her goal while doing something good, go to Cate's Donation Page

Thank you!

The A to Z Challenge

Starting Sunday, April 1, I will be participating in the A to Z Challenge.  So what does this mean?  It means that each day I have to write a blog post that has to do with a letter of the alphabet.  As it should, the challenge starts with "A" and continues on with the alphabet. Easy peasy!

Since I mostly blog about death related topics, hence the name "death writer," I plan on sticking with that theme. I realize I don't have a gazillion readers, but still, it would be kind of weird for me to write about aardvarks, bunnies and carrots when someone really wants to know if they can carry on Grandma's cremains on their flight back home to Kansas.  Don't worry, the month of April will be informative and fun.

A few days ago, I brainstormed on facebook with some writer friends for possible topics.  They were a big help, but I want to hear from you.  Is there something you're dying to know about?
Come on, don't be shy.  Tell me.

So, what's my goal for this challenge?

World domination.


I'm kidding, but not entirely.  I want readers.  It's no fun to just write and never get any feedback.  You follow me, I'll follow you.  Just don't ask me to drink any Kool Aid.